So, you’d like to take the plunge into a healthy, vegan lifestyle? Of COURSE you do, BUT…. (You knew there had to be a “but” in there somewhere, didn’t you?) “Change is HAAAAARD!!!” whines a familiar voice. “You’ll never stick to it so why bother getting started?” the annoying little sound continues. “You’ve tried to get healthy before but you (fill in the blank) so don’t kid yourself this time.”
Stop! STOP!! STOOOOOOP!!!
That voice is your stingy gremlin trying to keep you from making any changes in your life. Normally the gremlin serves a very useful purpose – keeping you alive & keeping you from doing anything too stupid (jumping off a cliff to experience the feeling of freefall sounds like fun ’til you remember the splat at the end.) Back in cave dweller days change had better be looked on with suspicion or you might not make it to another sunrise (or sunset, either.) The problem comes when your gremlin turns stingy & keeps you from making any changes at all. Poor health habits will make you just as dead as the splat at the end of that cliff jump. Problem is, your gremlin doesn’t see it that way. Coming out of the comfort zone is just not what your gremlin’s about.
So how to get around the gremlin? (“You can’t,” says the little bugger, crossing her arms with a pout.) Well, you could fight L’il Grimmy, but I’m sure you know her secret by now: fighting her or any adversarial attention gives her power, makes her stronger & DOWN you go! She’s like a toddler with super powers, the key word here being “toddler” ’cause THAT’S how we’re going to get around her.
She’ll say “Don’t wanna! Ain’t gonna! Don’t hafta! Can’t MAKE me!” You’re going to agree with her. No fighting. You’ll lose. We’re going to set you & Grimmy up to win right from the start using gentleness & baby steps.
Grimmy says you can’t. You agree & say “But if I COULD how would I do it?” Guaranteed Grimmy will give you a list of at least 2 or 3 options on how to begin. Pay attention to how you FEEL about those options. If the options feel like a drag, no amount of coaxing will get Grimmy to hang with you on this. Instead, ask what teeny, tiny BABY steps you could take that would be fun to do (IF you were going to make any changes.) Ah! NOW you’re getting somewhere! Grimmy doesn’t like change, but fun is good as long as it’s not too outlandish & you’re asking for her input. You see, your gremlin likes HABITS & by taking tiny, non-scary steps Grimmy can help you build significant habits that will eventually become the Really Big Thing (in this case a heathy vegan lifestyle) that you’re after & happily, she’ll be as resistant to changing the new habits as she was the old ones.
You can make suggestions, too like “How fun would it be if we made all our snacks vegan?” Snacks are cool! Challenges can also be helpful:”I bet you we can’t manage a whole week of healthy vegan lunches!” Challenges can be great fun, but don’t be mean about them. Andif your gremlin agrees & refuses your taunt, try another tactic. The age old tactic of spouses everywhere is very useful: “Yes, dear,” s you go about making tiny, non-threatening adjustments to your life. Make sure to make those healthy vegan snacks & meals fun & tasty or your gremlin throw up more barriers to improving your health.
These are just a few tips to help you on your way to better health. Consequently they can also be implemented any time you want to make any changes in your life! Try them & see how gentleness & baby steps can change your life!