I have a confession: I walk the path of the Sensualista. What is a Sensualista? The Sensualista, male or female, is a deeply spiritual person who places pleasure at the forefront. They are committed to The Fine Art, making a daily habit of awesoming. A Sensualitsta accepts no settling in any area of their lives; mediocrity is a very foreign concept. Sensualistas are peaceful people preferring to create win-win situations to get the things they want. We are generous, kind & grateful people always giving thanks for what we have & to those who contribute to our happiness. Our way is the way of partnership as described by of Riane Eisler in such works as The Chalice & the Blade & Sacred Pleasure. We are of no particular faith & of every faith. We take extravagant pleasure in being alive no matter where or when we are!
I can hear some of you grumbling in the background “But sometimes you HAVE to do things you don’t like! You can’t just go around doing only things that make you feel good. Life just isn’t like that!” To this I say true, there are things required to get on in this world that would absolutely not be my first choice or even my tenth choice. I may not like them but I don’t have to make them unpleasant with my attitude. I have a choice as to how I’ll view anything I do. There is always a way to bring joy & pleasure to any task.
Most of the time as a culture we choose to focus on the “don’t like” parts & ignore the pleasure potential in whatever we’re at. For instance paying bills. I actually LIKE paying my bills! I see it as a pleasure simply because someone out there trusted me enough to extend to me the goods or services in advance of me paying them. On top of that, even if I don’t have enough money to pay all my bills I still have some money & what I do have I use to pay what I can. I am grateful to have the money to pay whatever bills I can. Eventually I will have enough to pay all my bills all the time & I’ll be grateful for that, too. Gratitude & good music (& some tasty cookies) can make plenty of unpleasantries quite pleasant. I really do smile while I’m paying my bills these days. It wasn’t always so.
I used to be like the majority & have a real “ain’t it awful” fest as I sat down (finally & often late) to pay my bills. I griped about every penny I had to pay out, complaining the whole time about how unfair it all was that I had to pay bills. I whined & worried about money constantly, about “Where am I gonna get the money to pay all these bills?” You know what’s funny? I actually HAD the money to pay most of my bills, but instead of focusing on what I had & being grateful for that, all I fussed about was what wasn’t there. How silly is that? There was plenty of food in my house, a car in my driveway with plenty of gas & money for more, a rather lovely, spacious roof over my head with heat & hot water. I was at the time of my griping living a cushy life! Was it time for a focus change or what? Taking the Path of the Sensualista is much more, though. Much more. Too much, in fact for one article. Here I give you the very basics. I’ll cover more in future pieces. Check in tomorrow for part two of the basics of living Sensualista.